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  • i have lots of figure collectors that would criticize my dolls as being creepy so i dun not see a problem outsiders criticizing figure collectors.
    2 år siden
    This was a friend I use to have criticize about my collection when I shared photos. She said I need to grow up and said other non sense to me. After that, the person stop talking to me. I felt this person have no right to their opinion since I have a full-time spending my hard earn money and still ensure I pay my bills. I'm at the state of my life I don't care what people thinks not accepting what I'm into.

    Since your are the same as me, working, you entitled to do what you like.
    2 år siden
    Pigultrastar2 år siden#27951958I went through the same thing as you have. I even made a blog post about my parents and their view on things. My parents are a little controlling, especially my mom. I know she cares about me, but I'm talking about searching through my mail and threatning to destroy a figure if I don't tell her what's inside controlling. And I'm 18.
    I decided to put a spoiler if you want to read about my family and friends view about my collecting. This was way too long, sorry.View spoilerHide spoilerWhen I first started collecting I did not get a good response from my friends and my parents. My parents accused me of being obsessed with making money to buy figures. We used to get into major arguments about it all the time because they thought I was wasting my money. My friends thought it was stupid from the beginning. I found that I was alienating almost all of them by bringing up my hobby too often so I stopped telling them about my collection. I believe they thought that I was bragging about how much money I had, when the reality is that I worked hard for those figures. My parents even called me spoiled which doesn't even make sense considering the reason we argued was because they thought I was working too hard for figures. "Other kids don't get to work like you do." So I couldn't enjoy my my hobby because I was privileged to be able to make money? It made me frustrated to think that so many people thought that money was just falling into my lap or that I was becoming obbsessd. My mom even refused to let me buy a dollfie with the money I worked hard for because it was "disgusting to waste money on something like that." I was eventually at the point where I wanted to throw all my figures in the trash.
    It eventually dawned on me. I asked myself the questions "Why do I keep doing this?" and "Why do I work so hard when everyone hates me for it?" And I realized, I'm not collecting for other people, I'm doing it because I love it.
    I then tried to stop caring about what others thought. I kept collecting and when my family made rude comments, I tried not to let it phase me, because I knew what they said wasn't true. Now, even though I still get into fights with my mom and grandmother every now and then, they have come to partially accept my hobby. My mom even sits in my room when I'm not home and stares at all my figures. She says it's like going to a museum.
    So yeah, I've been there. You can never really convince people of something once they've made there minds. However, if you prove that you're not going to back down when people try to tear you down, they will be forced to recognize that you aren't going to change for them. I'm a firm believer in if you're really passionate about something, that passion will carry through to others. They will have to either accept you, or not, and that is the time to find those who are going to be the closest to you. Eventually they might even respect your passion, at least that's what happened for me. While many of my friends never came around, my now best friends at least respect that I have a resolve for something.
    Never let others try to tell you what to do or how to feel. Do what makes you happy, otherwise you'll lose sight of who you are. If people really care about you they'll come around.
    I'm glad you're happy, don't let others bring you down.


    I'm so sorry that you went through that! I never really thought about how my friends or others could be seeing as me bragging about having money because I try my hardest to get my friends and family members anything they need, I always try to give them as much as I can but also enough for me to keep safe and live on. My mom has told me before how she wants to throw my things away and that they're useless because they're not useful. But, they're useful TO ME so that's all that matters. Thank you so much for sharing your own story with me, it really helped me!
    2 år siden
    I can chime in with a “I’ve been there before”. Contrary to others though I never really got criticized for figures and anime being a waste of money (though my parents would still use that excuse sometimes) but that it was a satanist hobby. I never really understood where they got these ideas but my mom was convinced that anime would lead me to hell. It was the most annoying shit to deal with since it made no logical sense to me. Even now that I don’t live with my mom, have been married for 6 years and have a pretty good job she STILL tells me it’s a waste of money. She’d long since stopped saying it would lead me to hell since it was obvious I didn’t give a shit. :/

    The only advice I can give is to make sure that you are putting money into savings. It doesn’t have to be a lot but it all adds up over time and having a good amount of savings is good in case something happens. >.> I put aside 20% of my paycheck into savings, pay off my bills and then divvy up any remainder towards figures, games and all that.
    2 år siden
    The desire to understand precedes the actual act of understanding. Those who would like to pass judgement on others for any matter do so because judgement is quite easy – understanding... not so much.

    You would need to, in my estimation, understand yourself why your mom, it seems to me the one person you have the biggest issue with, is so adamantly opposed to your hobby. One does not HATE something one has no interest in. So it is quite possible that your friends or family are jealous of the happiness you derive from collecting, if not the hobby itself. They likely feel it is pulling you away from enjoying their company.

    Elucidate to them, much like you have done here, how and why collecting has improved your happiness so much. If they genuinely care about you it should assuage their worries and critiques. Assure them you still value their company, and I think you should have better luck. Just remember, critique is always helpful...they may not even realize how it's strengthened your resolve for collecting. :3
    2 år siden
    Fortunately in my family we all agree that as long as it's your own money, you can do whatever you want with it.

    But I think it's just natural many people will not "get it". From what you share, your family don't understand why you love anime and figures, and surely they won't in the future.

    As a general recommendation, there will always be someone that will critize you, and it is harder when it is your own family. But always do that what makes you happy. Hear the critics and politely respond that you heard the critic, but you think differently.

    It is good you know the cost of money. Remember to never spend money you don't have and this beautiful hobby will remain beautiful.
    2 år siden
    As for friends, I honestly think you're better off without ones who can't respect your hobbies. For your parents, you could try to point out how harmless it is as a hobby and a way to spend money/time compared to other things and of course it makes you happy. My parents are always grateful that I spend my time and money collecting and enjoying anime/games because it's such a harmless hobby compared to what a lot of adults my age get up to. A collector hobby is something for a parent to be relieved about, there's no money for getting up to trouble with ahaha.

    I believe that as long as you aren't hurting anyone else, you should always do what makes you happy.
    2 år siden
    just say this to them(who said bad things to you)
    "woah you must be free all day 24/7 to critize my own hobby, get a life bro"
    2 år siden
    I went through the same thing as you have. I even made a blog post about my parents and their view on things. My parents are a little controlling, especially my mom. I know she cares about me, but I'm talking about searching through my mail and threatning to destroy a figure if I don't tell her what's inside controlling. And I'm 18.

    I decided to put a spoiler if you want to read about my family and friends view about my collecting. This was way too long, sorry.View spoilerHide spoilerWhen I first started collecting I did not get a good response from my friends and my parents. My parents accused me of being obsessed with making money to buy figures. We used to get into major arguments about it all the time because they thought I was wasting my money. My friends thought it was stupid from the beginning. I found that I was alienating almost all of them by bringing up my hobby too often so I stopped telling them about my collection. I believe they thought that I was bragging about how much money I had, when the reality is that I worked hard for those figures. My parents even called me spoiled which doesn't even make sense considering the reason we argued was because they thought I was working too hard for figures. "Other kids don't get to work like you do." So I couldn't enjoy my my hobby because I was privileged to be able to make money? It made me frustrated to think that so many people thought that money was just falling into my lap or that I was becoming obbsessd. My mom even refused to let me buy a dollfie with the money I worked hard for because it was "disgusting to waste money on something like that." I was eventually at the point where I wanted to throw all my figures in the trash.

    It eventually dawned on me. I asked myself the questions "Why do I keep doing this?" and "Why do I work so hard when everyone hates me for it?" And I realized, I'm not collecting for other people, I'm doing it because I love it.

    I then tried to stop caring about what others thought. I kept collecting and when my family made rude comments, I tried not to let it phase me, because I knew what they said wasn't true. Now, even though I still get into fights with my mom and grandmother every now and then, they have come to partially accept my hobby. My mom even sits in my room when I'm not home and stares at all my figures. She says it's like going to a museum.

    So yeah, I've been there. You can never really convince people of something once they've made there minds. However, if you prove that you're not going to back down when people try to tear you down, they will be forced to recognize that you aren't going to change for them. I'm a firm believer in if you're really passionate about something, that passion will carry through to others. They will have to either accept you, or not, and that is the time to find those who are going to be the closest to you. Eventually they might even respect your passion, at least that's what happened for me. While many of my friends never came around, my now best friends at least respect that I have a resolve for something.

    Never let others try to tell you what to do or how to feel. Do what makes you happy, otherwise you'll lose sight of who you are. If people really care about you they'll come around.

    I'm glad you're happy, don't let others bring you down.
    2 år siden
    most of my friends are degenerates so they dont care per se, but they do think its a waste of money. my mum hates sexualised shit so i just dont buy those. dad is a big ass weeb as well, so hes k.

    its mainly the old niggas in my fam that are a lil perturbed by it.
    2 år siden
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