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Family judging your collection.Family judging your collection.Diary

ChuckyfreakChuckyfreak12 dager siden
So this is my first article and is more so just a place for me to rant about my family, specifically my dad, judging my collection.

He's never been very supportive of my collection and every chance he gets always makes me feel bad about it. My mom on the other hand is very supportive and always loves seeing the new figures and merch I get in the mail. It always hurts when my dad calls me a hoarder and says there's something wrong with me.

I can't even show him the figures I get in the mail because whenever I do, the excitement I previously had about the new addition gets completely drained by his mean comments.

I have OCD, so I tend to not let people in my room in general where all my figures are for fear of them getting broken/dirty. Even if that wasn't an issue though, I wouldn't want to let my dad in as he'd just ridicule me for having so many.

I've been collection figures for 11 years now, so it's not like this collection appeared over night. I just don't understand why he feels the need to always say something mean and negative instead of something nice or just nothing at all if nice is too much.

Anyways, that's my rant of the day, thanks for reading if you've made it this far.
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Not gonna be against any side, but if I were in your position, I'd accept the challenge of making my 親父 acknowledge my hobby. After all, not everyone has a dad who'd dislike their children's collections even if it helps the child through stuff because they think they truly care.

Disclaimer as my 親父 just works overseas most of the time and my parents don't care how I use my money because they know I can handle money "well" (hahahaha).
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HassySoda Autumn girl
LittlePisces12 dager siden#97943891I think even if one quits figures, they eventually might buy things they don't really need like a fancy phone or overpriced clothes. Sure, one might argue you get a use out of those things, but that doesn't mean you really need them. Heck, I rarely used my Wacom to tell the truth. But that's because of working full-time and having less free time.
I am sorry if I made a disagreeing comment. I have a long work schedule I feel like saying random stuff especially when tired. I am not mad at you if you're concerned about that. Again, I am very sorry.


Don't worry I understand what you are trying to say and I think it's a fair point
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WhoBeDaPlaya12 dager siden#97943757Would love to know where you can get a house for less than $100K
(not counting aftermarket values, which have admittedly skyrocketed, I have spent nowhere neart six figures on my entire collection)

hungary. you can buy one for half of that in fact.
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HassySoda12 dager siden#97943851View spoilerHide spoilerThe hobby is fairly luxurious that I can't help but agree with critism about it. Esp regarding the money angle. Even though it hurts and obviously someone hounding you isn't gonna automatically make you change your mind but. It might hurt and I can't pretend like I know him but there's a chance it does come from a place of concern. But isn't expressing that well. I feel like this esp makes sense given you are young and probably haven't been working that long if you are working anyway. So there's stuff in the future that might be stressful and tough like bills and medical expenses? And that he is worried about your future and worried about what he views as current bad habits.
I've had negative things said about certain art I do but I kinda know their angle for it (Which came from concern I think). So maybe I'm just projecting too much
I think even if one quits figures, they eventually might buy things they don't really need like a fancy phone or overpriced clothes. Sure, one might argue you get a use out of those things, but that doesn't mean you really need them. Heck, I rarely used my Wacom to tell the truth. But that's because of working full-time and having less free time.

I am sorry if I made a disagreeing comment. I have a long work schedule I feel like saying random stuff especially when tired. I am not mad at you if you're concerned about that. Again, I am very sorry.
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HassySoda Autumn girl
The hobby is fairly luxurious that I can't help but agree with critism about it. Esp regarding the money angle. Even though it hurts and obviously someone hounding you isn't gonna automatically make you change your mind but. It might hurt and I can't pretend like I know him but there's a chance it does come from a place of concern. But isn't expressing that well. I feel like this esp makes sense given you are young and probably haven't been working that long if you are working anyway. So there's stuff in the future that might be stressful and tough like bills and medical expenses? And that he is worried about your future and worried about what he views as current bad habits.

I've had negative things said about certain art I do but I kinda know their angle for it (Which came from concern I think). So maybe I'm just projecting too much
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nyugvo612 dager siden#97941962"you could've bought a house with this money"
Would love to know where you can get a house for less than $100K
(not counting aftermarket values, which have admittedly skyrocketed, I have spent nowhere neart six figures on my entire collection)
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I'm a old guy. I have a son who is nearly 30 who has two kids of his own. My parents are in their 70's. My parents probably do think my collecting figures is a waste of money. My mom thinks they are just a bunch of 'little girls with big boobs' (her words exactly). Dad doesn't say anything but then he has a collection of miniature statues based on Geek and Roman statues so he wouldn't have an argument if he did. But I can see their and and possibly your dads point of view. If you just think of figures as toys you automatically assume the person collecting them is just childish. I think people who collect shoes are crazy but I don't share their passion for shoes but I do understand wanting to collect something you love so I will not judge them for it. My son however loves my collection. He and I both love anime. We share that passion. He doesn't collect figures though as he would rather spend his money on tattoos, music and just having fun. I have no problem with whatever he wants to spend his money on because it's not my money. It's his. It's his life not mine. It's your life. Does your dad collect anything? Does he spend his money on anything that is not just a necessity? If he does then maybe you can try to get him to see that his passion for whatever he loves is not that much different from your passion for what you love. It sucks that your dad berates you for your passion. I understand how heartbreaking that could be. But he is your dad and maybe it's his way of worrying about you? Maybe he thinks those things are just toys and you need to grow up? Just try to brush off his snide comments and remember he just doesn't share your passion for it. One day you will not be under the same roof as him anyway. You could always tell him it's an investment in your future and tell him about the resale of figures and how valuable they can get in the aftermarket. Even if you never plan to sale your collection he doesn't have to know it. My parents freak out when I tell them how much some of my figures go for on the aftermarket. I'm just grasping at straws for you but seriously I hope you come out of this in the end and still have the same passion for collecting that you do now. Keep an open mind even if the people around you are closed minded. I wish you well.
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I can't relate so Idk how helpful this advice would be but just keep doing what you love and don't let haters (even haters in the family) ruin it for you. I can't imagine how hard that would be but I if it's something that really makes you happy then it's not worth giving up for someone else.

My parents are supportive of me collecting but my collection is so big now that anytime I get another figure I get comments questioning how I need more of them and why I have so many, etc. It's definitely discouraging to hear when it's something that you're looking forward to but in the end I wouldn't let it stop me from collecting.

Find an outlet (like this site) to share your hobby with people with similar interests and to distract you from your dad's negativity. Find the bright side of the hobby and indulge in it. Honestly anyone can get hate for anything and it's just not worth listening to. Know that he also doesn't need to share the same interests as you.

I feel like this is a very obscure hobby that only people who engage in it understand- if you don't collect things then you don't see the appeal of it. Basically he doesn't get the joy out of it that you do so don't let his lack of understanding ruin it for you.
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my mom thinks they're cute, but that I seriously need to tone it down (and considering my latest purchase, I think I'm definitely gonna be on the down low for a while in terms of collecting- I only plan on giving payment requests for some of my PO's then no more). I just don't think my dad cares, on the other hand.
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I can tell you, your dad thinks each and every figure is the same.
throughout the years I had similar conversations with my family, and came to understand their perspective. yet they can't comprehend mine.
"don't you have enough of these already?" "oh my god why do you need more of this?"
"how many will be enough?"
"you could've bought a house with this money"
I personally buy figures because I love the character or the show it's from.
it's a memento, a trophy or similar.
my mom complained last time how she wants to buy herself something lasting for her birthday but couldn't come up with anything. she has bags, shoes, accessories, clothes, etc. "so she doesn't need more of those" told her to get a winnie the pooh plush since she likes the character. "I don't have the space for it." told her to get that oldschool lamp she likes. "I don't want it anymore"
whatever I said she countered with she has no USE for it.
asked her about the tv show she likes. asked her if she'd buy something of the main character.
"dear god, no." told her I would in her stead. I realized how differently we think.
I watch an anime, if I like it, I look up the merch. if it has something I deem good I buy it. the end.
just yesterday my dad told me there's no way I havn't spent enough money on these "stupid shitty toys" to buy a new laptop. I got really pissed but that's not the moral here.
it seems like my parents never had a hobby they spent money on. they don't understand how these things I buy have value to me. for them, everything must serve a purpose and has to be useful somehow, or be an investment.
your dad thinks it's invaluable useless junk, when it absolutely isn't. maybe I'm growing old as well, because I can't see the value in donating to vtubers or similar entertainers. but I accept that it's worth money for some people to have their messages read by someone on the other side of the globe disguised as an anime avatar.
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